Concerns with Islam: How Women Are Perceived Disrespectfully

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Concerns with Islam:
Thoughts from an American Convert
By: Americana X
Ch.1: Apostasy
Ch 2: Immoral, Unjustified, and Preemptive Warfare and Violence
Ch.3: Child Marriage
Ch.4: Women’s Lack of Legal Rights and Equality
Ch.5: How Women Are Perceived Disrespectfully
Ch.6: Wife Beating
Ch.7: Men and Women are Not Equal at All In Islam
Ch.8: Sexual Slavery in Islam
Ch.9: Adoption
Ch.10: Democracy is not Compatible with Islam

Women are Compared to Donkeys and Dogs

Narrated 'Aisha: The things which annul prayer were mentioned before me (and those were): a dog, a donkey and a woman. I said, "You have compared us (women) to donkeys and dogs. By Allah! I saw the Prophet praying while I used to lie in (my) bed between him and the Qibla. Whenever I was in need of something, I disliked to sit and trouble the Prophet. So, I would slip away by the side of his feet."

Somehow, a woman nullified a man’s prayer, but not a horse or camel. If a man’s relationship to God is that weak, there seem to be more serious problems.

Menstruation is a Punishment

"Allah said, ‘It is My obligation to make Eve bleed once every month as she made this tree bleed.
Tabari I:280

How nice! The beautiful system which God made to produce children, the woman’s natural female function is reduced to a punishment. Sorry, but this seems to me to be a gross disrespect to nature.

A menstruating woman is not allowed to recite the Qur’an.
Abu Dawud vol.1 footnote 113
Âishah relates that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “I do not permit a woman in her menses or a person in a state of major ritual impurity into the mosque.”
Sunan Abî Dâwûd 232, Sunan Ibn Mâjah, Sunan al-Bayhaqî, and Sahîh Ibn Khuzaymah

So because a woman is menstruating, she is denied her spiritual rights?

Women are Generally Inferior and Stupid and Will Inhabit Hell in Greater Numbers

And it is for the women to act as they (the husbands) act by them, in all fairness; but the men are a step above them.
Allah said, ‘It is My obligation to make Eve bleed once every month as she made this tree bleed. I must also make Eve stupid, although I created her intelligent.’ Because Allah afflicted Eve, all of the women of this world menstruate and are stupid.
Al-Tabari 1:280
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri: The Prophet said, "Isn't the witness of a woman equal to half of that of a man?" The women said, "Yes." He said, "This is because of the deficiency of a woman's mind."
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri: Once Allah's Apostle went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) o 'Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Apostle ?" He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you." The women asked, "O Allah's Apostle! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion."
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri On 'Id ul Fitr or 'Id ul Adha Allah's Apostle (p.b.u.h) went out to the Musalla. After finishing the prayer, he delivered the sermon and ordered the people to give alms. He said, "O people! Give alms." Then he went towards the women and said. "O women! Give alms, for I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-Fire were you (women)." The women asked, "O Allah's Apostle! What is the reason for it?" He replied, "O women! You curse frequently, and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. O women, some of you can lead a cautious wise man astray." Then he left. And when he reached his house, Zainab, the wife of Ibn Masud, came and asked permission to enter It was said, "O Allah's Apostle! It is Zainab." He asked, 'Which Zainab?" The reply was that she was the wife of Ibn Mas'ub. He said, "Yes, allow her to enter." And she was admitted. Then she said, "O Prophet of Allah! Today you ordered people to give alms and I had an ornament and intended to give it as alms, but Ibn Masud said that he and his children deserved it more than anybody else." The Prophet replied, "Ibn Masud had spoken the truth. Your husband and your children had more right to it than anybody else."

So from this, we can see that according to Islam, women are going to be in hell in greater numbers and more stupid.

With respect to intelligence, it is interesting to note that once the playing field is fair i.e. if women are given access to education with equal parity to men, and family support, they actually do as well if not better than men.

“At Harvard, 55 percent of the women graduated with honors this spring, compared with barely half the men. And at Florida Atlantic University in Boca Raton, a public university, women made up 64 percent of this year's graduates, and they got 75 percent of the honors degrees and 79 percent of the highest honors, summa cum laude….What is beyond dispute is that the college landscape is changing. Women now make up 58 percent of those enrolled in two- and four-year colleges and are, over all, the majority in graduate schools and professional schools too.”
At Colleges, Women Are Leaving Men in the Dust
The Department of Economics, University of Rhode Island

Women are “Crooked” Like Ribs

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "The woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some crookedness."
AbuHuraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: Woman is like a rib. When you attempt to straighten it, you would break it. And if you leave her alone you would benefit by her, and crookedness will remain in her.
Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported: Woman has been created from a rib and will in no way be straightened for you; so if you wish to benefit by her, benefit by her while crookedness remains in her. And if you attempt to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.
Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) as saying: He who believes in Allah and the Hereafter, if he witnesses any matter he should talk in good terms about it or keep quiet. Act kindly towards woman, for woman is created from a rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is its top. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it, and if you leave it, its crookedness will remain there. So act kindly towards women.

‏ As referenced previously, there is no question, men lie more than women do. “Considering experimental data men lie 4-5 times more than women.”[1] But for arguments sake, I will give Muslim men the benefit of the doubt that it may appear, in many Muslim countries, that women lie more. Why would that be so? If one group has no power, no rights, or rights that are unenforceable, and no ability to make their own decisions, is it any wonder? I have been living in Egypt for a year and have heard countless stories of women never leaving their homes, being told after marriage that although they thought they would be able to work, that they can not. Men constantly use verbiage like “I let my wife do this or that” rather than saying “My wife does this or that.” Is it any wonder that a woman having to live under these circumstances would become manipulative and conniving?

Men Should Not Trust Women

"Tell the men with you who have wives: never trust a woman."
Ishaq 584

Where is the spirituality? Where is the fostering of respect between men and woman? People always talk about how the Prophet Mohamed elevated the status of women. Maybe so, possibly the status of woman was even more deplorable. But is this the standard for the 21st century that we want to use? Telling men to never trust a woman? Believing that it is a fact that there are more women than men in hell and that women are inherently more stupid? What is the benefit? This all seems very destructive and dangerous to me.

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